How Cutting My Long Hair Off Liberated Me
I cut my hair off!! It’s short. Really short! And I’m very happy I made the decision. I think you should do it too!
Cutting my long hair off liberated me. It freed me from the bondage of what others think of me, helping me to go after what I truly want in life.
To any stranger, that fact I cut my hair off is no big deal. They don’t know what I looked like before the chop, therefore they have no reason to judge the outcome.
To my friends and family, of course, it will take time for them to get used to my new look. And I’m sure there are a few of them, if not many, who believe I looked way better with my hair long.
To me, however, the act of cutting my long locks off is huge! And if you’re a woman with long hair (that qualifies at least 50% of female population) it’s huge to you too.
And you know it.
Long hair is a woman’s security blanket. I’ll even go as far as to say, it’s our prison. I know mine was.
Unfortunately, as long as our hair is long, even if it’s stringy, over-processed, up in the perpetual bun or ponytail, or fake – as long as it’s long, us women somehow feel safe. Safe as in worthy of the opposite sex’s attention kind of safe. Without it we feel less attractive, (often) even down-right repulsive.
Sad but true.
[inlinetweet prefix=”null” tweeter=”null” suffix=”null”]”Here’s the thing, men have to also mature in how they see women, too. Because they need to understand that it’s not just about how we look, it’s about who we are. And I am going to tell you like this, ‘If you can’t love me with short hair, and you telling me I got to have long hair to be loved, guess what, I ain’t the one for you.” – Jada Pinkett Smith[/inlinetweet]
I had long-longish hair more or less my entire adult life but, I’ve had a secret obsession with bleaching my hair white and cutting it super short like Pink. I didn’t had the guts do it because I was afraid I wouldn’t be pretty anymore – not even to my husband of 11 years.
I remember when Miley Cyrus traded in her long, thick, wavy brown lock for her a spikey, bleached coiff. I was appalled…and extremely jealous!
On one hand I thought she was an absolute idiot for cutting off her beautiful hair.
On a scale of 1-10 her beauty which was an 8 in my opinion, dropped drastically to a 3. Despite the tongue wagging and twerking, I was convinced the reason her fiance, Liam Hemsworth, ended their relationship has because of her new “tough” look.
For 30 years I’ve been wearing my hair long because I thought it’s what other people expected of me. I was an attractive woman, so naturally I had to have long hair. They seem to go hand in hand.
As a mom, I assumed if I cut my hair off I’d be giving in to the “soccer mom” stereotype. The other day my friend even said to me, “Don’t cut your hair so that you have that mom-look”.
Your decision to keep the long hair, despite your burning desire to cut it off, dye it blue, or style it in a really out there way is a reflection of how you (let others) run your life.
Take an honest moment and ask yourself, “What else am I doing on a regular basis to please other people? What do I want to do, be, have, say, write or look like…that may upset, offend, repel, disgust or even disappoint others?
I’d love to hear your thoughts. What do you need to do to take the next truthful step in your life?